How To Get Funky

Alright, we've all been there, you know the funky stage and no I don't mean 70’s music funky, but the type of funky that turns your stomach inside out and backwards and makes your mind melt away into oblivion. The kind that makes you feel like your feet cannot move and you are slowly but surely sinking into the quicksand that you are so petrified of. And for others, they are so deep in the quicksand they can barely keep their head up to breath. This is not an abnormal or “funky” situation, but one that everyone tends to get sucked into at one point or another. You feel helpless and broken and the only thing consuming your mind is the question of “how did I get myself here”. Now, I've been through this more than I probably should say and each was a separate challenge and I luckily found the sturdy rock just in my reach and the strength to pull myself up when I was drowning in the sorrows of my own mind. So, here I am today to tell you how you got to where you are, and to help you find your way out.

As we are growing up and continuing our lives from the day to day basis we tend to miss huge red warning signs pointing our way telling us to stop. We keep on running and filling our minds with everything we believe is wrong with us. The issue with this is we believe these things because they are continuously playing in our minds and we end up believing that we made these opinions ourselves. When in actuality, society and those whose opinions that we value most whether it be family, friends, or strangers stick with us and we decide to eat them up and allow them to poison our minds. In a more condensed version we do all of the damage to ourselves without realizing how much harm it truly does cause, but also how much influence we have.  

Don't believe me? How about if I tell you that whenever you look in the mirror you think you are “fat” and “ugly”. Did you just think that? Did your mind just go “wow, you really need to lose 10 pounds so you can look like Kylie Jenner and then put on a bunch of makeup so people like you more”? NO! That is not you telling you these things it is society planting the seed in your mind and then your mind just watering it with everyone else's opinions and you feel like you cant stop it. You have the power to put an end to these thoughts from occurring and feeding your energy to the toxic seed but we aren't shown that publicly, we are shown to sit and be quiet and let the negativity fuel us.

Now, a funk is not just having negative thoughts and letting them prosper, it actually stems from your energy. This may sound all hippy dippy but just keep an open mind and listen. We are all energy and everything gives off energy. There are different frequencies that match up and are aligned with the energies we give off. So as an example let's say you had a great morning and nothing went wrong and you were complemented, got coffee, and just everything went right and the rest of your day fell into place, this happened because you were in a high vibrational frequency and you aligned with everything else that was also at that frequency. Now let's say you woke up late, stubbed your toe on the edge of your bed, and spilt coffee all over your new shirt. Things now are going to be sporadic and a jumble of messy situations because you were at a low frequency starting off your day the rest went down the toilet. 

Those were two prime examples of high vibrational energy (positivity) and low vibrational energy (negativity). But these can coincide and give you a flip flop day. Which would be waking up and spilling your coffee but then not letting it ruin your day instead you say “I will make this a great day” and then things change and vice versa. Anyway you get the point so going back on track to getting funky what happens is you have a bad day or a rocky situation pops up in your life and you, quite frankly, give up. So you have one bad day which leads into another and another and pretty soon you turn into DJ Khaled saying “anotha one” as the bad days pass. The negativity you are producing lowers your energy level to be on such a low frequency it seems you are stuck and are yet again sinking deeper and deeper in the quicksand.

This all isn't your fault which you need to understand. From the time we enter the school system we are taught other people's rules and regulations and are introduced to societal expectations so I mean, you really didn't have a choice but to listen. As you get older you do need to realize all society is is trying to create a utopia full of negativity that wants everyone to be a part of and wants to tear away your happiness and confidence so you have to make money to feel fulfilled for a small amount of time and then crash into another funk. It is a never ending game that some people play their whole lives but hopefully for you and many others we can stop this.

No matter how long you were in this funk for here are a few ways that have helped me get through funks from one week to about four months. I follow these steps each time I feel the uneasy punch to the gut and they always tend to do the trick.

When the funk is sitting there one of the major things I have noticed is my mind tends to focus on what it is doing for other people. What I mean by this is I will think “well if I decided to do this what will THEY think” or “How will THEY feel”. You see a pattern here, you're thinking about everyone else's feelings other than focusing on your own to get better. Now I'm not saying to become a self centered, selfish person and not care about others but by you doing this when in the wrong state of mind it will only cause yourself to suppress your emotions and actually sink deeper. So to change this you could talk to someone you trust about why you feel this way or for me I like to write a letter to myself. This letter has no specific formatting but instead it just makes you understand yourself better. For example it could go a little something like this,

“Dear Sab,

I don't like how you always look in the mirror and judge yourself. I don't like how you are continuosly unhappy with your appearance and never feel good enough. You're good enough and you are perfect to me........ect.”

Just by doing this you are now taking responsibility for the things you are doing that are wreaking havoc on yourself and then you will understand that you're not all that bad and you do need to love yourself considering no one else is you and you have yourself at the end of the day, and that is your power.

Some other little things that can help to raise your vibration simply and easily while you are down in the dumps can be just as simple as sitting with yourself in a quiet space and clearing your mind, or in other words meditation. This has helped me figure out problems and get rid of anxiety and sadness when I am not a good vibrational state. Something else that truly will change your life is a gratitude list. By writing down or even saying out loud to yourself the things in your life you are grateful for whether they be large or small changes your mindset to appreciate your everyday life and to make you realize that even when you're upset, you have so much to be grateful for. By putting your energy into something as positive as gratitude your life will change and for me, gratitude was my rock that pulled me up and out of the quicksand. You can even “dream” about all of the amazing things you will accomplish in your life and your goals and with all of that together and the feeling of happiness you will rise up.

If there was one thing I want you to learn from this super long ramble it would be that love, happiness and gratitude can save your life. Not money, not materialistic items, but happiness within yourself and love shared with yourself and others does nothing but great things for you. Next time you are stuck and unmotivated I would like you to take a look at this post and do what i've said and I promise you you will not be disappointed with the results. I hope that this helped somebody out there and know that you are never ever alone. Until next time peace, love and happiness.